“Until we take responsibility, we will continue to pursue balance and blame others when we can’t find it.“ – Frank Bealer
I’ve been in church leadership for over 20 years, and I’ve experienced A LOT of dysfunction in the church. The size of the church doesn’t decrease or increase the severity of the dysfunction either. But I will say this. The last 3 churches I’ve had the honor of serving on staff at were roughly 750, 1000, and currently 2000 in weekend attendance. The dysfunction is the same. It’s the QUANTITY that gets you!
But let’s not blame the church. The church is made up of people (you and I), and it’s no different than a marriage relationship. Problems are almost always connected to both sides. That’s what I appreciate about this book. It addresses the side leaders can have direct influence on. OURSELVES!
I have been following Frank Bealer for the past few years and have enjoyed listening to his interviews on Carey Nieuwhof’s Leadership Podcast. The Myth of Balance, however, elaborates on an entirely deeper level of Frank the leader, and Frank the husband/father. He is authentic with certain ministry challenges, and if you’ve been in ministry longer than 6 months you will likely relate. In fact, there were two points in the book which caused a knot in my throat (Don’t judge. I’m more sensitive than the average guy).
Disclaimer: This book is NOT for leaders who are hung up on ego and need to be NEEDED by the church. It is, however, for those who are clearly called to making a difference in God’s Kingdom work while SIMULTANEOUSLY leading a healthy family.
Let’s get to the book. Below is a short list of my favorite quotes from The Myth of Balance.
“Balance. It lives somewhere between unemployment and renowned success.”
“God never intended for us to sacrifice the family He blessed us with on the altar of the ministry He called us to.” (read that one a couple more times)
“We often excuse our mismanagement of time, energy, and effort as just being busy.”
“Just because you FEEL overwhelmed doesn’t mean your work schedule is paralyzing you.”
WHEN THIS, THEN THAT… it’s coming to realize that exceptions in ministry are going to happen. They always do. So Frank offers a practical approach to planning for these exceptions. Get a copy for you and your team HERE and discover your WHEN THIS, THEN THAT. I promise…..this will create real growth conversations in your staff.