Two months ago, our oldest Son (actively serving in the US Navy overseas) had his orders changed. Originally, he was not going to be able to attend his sister’s wedding in January. But that changed…and we never told her.
Mostly because, well…it’s the military and we know that things are always prone to change.
Well, flying home from his duty station is very expensive and we hadn’t budgeted for it due to original orders preventing him from coming. So, we put together a GoFundMe to see if we could raise the funds.
Wow!!! God has been so good to us over the past 25 years of doing ministry all over the country. Friends and family really showed up in a big way, raising $1575.00 in just 6 DAYS!
Enjoy watching the REVEAL VIDEO below. We took Kelcey and Luke to coffee and had Garrett hiding in the back room to bring out their coffees. She was in shock.
I have a love/hate relationship with watching our kids grow up!
In our 26+ years of marriage, our family has moved over 20 times. And 5 of those have been large moves across the country.
One word. ‘Adventure.’
What I’ve discovered as Cailey and I are quickly becoming empty nesters is that our kids are taking on the rhythm of life they were raised in.
Take exhibit A (image to the right). This is the new world clock on my phone. As of this week, this now represents the 3 time zones our immediate family live in.
Most of our moves, and all 5 of the big ones, were related to doing ministry. And it wasn’t ever as simple as going where employment was. There were always multiple options for us to choose from. I guess we’ve just firmly believed in listening to God carefully and stepping in faith in whichever direction He sends us. We’ve modeled this lifestyle to our kids, so it should not surprise me that we now have a 21 y/o son living in Colorado and a 23 y/o son serving the next 3 years in Guam with the U.S. Navy. Our other two kids currently live at home, but who knows where they will end up in the next year or two?
All that said, here are a few lessons I’m learning about watching our kids leave our nest and become highly independent adults.
Our direction and influence in their lives must look different than before. It also needs to be OFFERED, not GIVEN.
Their life choices are THEIR life choices. Their career, family, lifestyle, and overall worldview isn’t going to look just like mine. Those are not wrong or right. They are simply going to be different…unique to the person they are becoming.
It is fun watching them discover ADULTING along the way. But this is a spectator sport. We must not interfere in game play when we’re on the bench. And guess what? Our kids will determine if and when we come off the sidelines, not us.
Lastly, I love the fact that our kids still TALK to us! Now, I’m not so naive to claim that they tell us everything and they know all there is to know about Mom and Dad. But we still share our ambitions, worries, victories, and basic joys with each other. Cailey and I call that a win for our family.
Our family is far from perfect. We’ve even been told we’re entertaining at times (that’s not always a compliment). But our kids genuinely love each other, and deep down they know that their parents love them.
Here’s to family, life transition, and simply going with the flow!