Have you ever noticed that doing the RIGHT THING often brings a certain level of discomfort?
Don’t you wish it was the other way around? I do. But I guess that is why God gave us tools like the Matthew 18 principle for dealing with conflict. And he did tell us ahead of time that life was not going to be easy. So how do we approach doing what’s right despite how painful or awkward it might feel?
Allow me to share 5 things I try to do:
1. Pray | Yep, good old Spiritual discernment. When the answers are not obvious to us we must remember …they are very clear to God. So why not ask for a peek into his knowledge?
2. Ask ‘why’ | Do the benefits largely overpower the reasons NOT to do it? In other words, if doing nothing seems like a huge mistake then at least we know that something needs to change.
3. Ask ‘who’ | Seriously, who will this decision help the most? Whatever decision I make, it’s almost always the wrong decision if I’m the only clear beneficiary.
4. Talk about it | Just start openly talking about the issue around others as if you are leaning toward that decision. Pay attention to the body language, facial reactions, and verbal input you get. Want to really be aggressive? Ask them how they would come to a decision.
5. Take action | At some point we just need to make a decision. And sometimes this can be risky. But being willing to risk failure in order to lead well builds self-confidence and gives your team members more reason to follow your lead in the future. Take the dive. If it was the right decision celebrate and run with it. If not, own it and learn from it. Either way it’s a win-win situation.
What do you struggle with when making big decisions? What filters or processes have you used?
Please comment below.
This is technically Day 4, but I still want to share from yesterday.
(Be sure to check out my Day 1 and Day 2 posts)
The key moments for me were continuing my reading in ‘No Other Gods’ and having some sweet time of personal worship. I find it cool how the Lord can enter into fellowship with me while simply lying on my back in my hotel room with my earbuds in.
When we take the time for Him, He takes the time for us.
And as it is with most of my Sabbaticals, I have not done all that I originally intended to at the beginning of the week. And today reminded me that this is not necessarily a bad thing.
You see, I came upon a Tweet today asking for church leaders to share their story…particularly about their current ‘Phase’ of life and ministry. I could not resist. I love sharing my story, both the good and the less pleasant sides. If it hadn’t been for others telling their personal stories I may not be where I am today. So I share to encourage others.
Anyway, in doing this I want to share with you a personal quote I included when I emailed them. Here you go.
“Our partnership with God in His Kingdom work is never contingent upon our comfort, happiness, or confidence.”
While I was thinking back over the past 6 months it dawned on me. God doesn’t wait until we are living on the mountaintop, free of pain and 100% sure of Him being right there with us, to ask us to do something HUGE for Him. Nothing happens to us that does not pass through His hands. This doesn’t mean that God necessarily ’causes’ all things to happen to us. It does mean, however, that when we’ve given God a definitive ‘yes’ He will be active, aware, and verbal in our relationship with Him regardless of what is going on around us. The critical thing here is to maintain healthy personal soul care. If we aren’t doing this it can become nearly impossible to hear His guiding voice or feel His involvement in our daily lives.
What about you? How have you been hearing from God recently? Leave a comment below.