If you’re like me, this DOES NOT come easy. In fact, this topic is overly common among men. It is also increasingly difficult for single mothers, because in the absence of a father this responsibility (privilege) defaults to them. All children need (deserve) spiritual leadership and guidance.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (Eph. 6:4)
For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. (Eph. 5:23-24)
Now men, this scripture is NOT something we’re entitled to. It is something to be EARNED! It is also not something meant for us to LORD OVER our family. The intent here is simply to give us the platform to lead our wives and kids into Biblical and authentic living. We are to do this through love and the help of the Holy Spirit.
Let’s look at a few ways you can begin leading in your home:
1. Pray with your spouse | For many men this can feel quite awkward. But I can tell you from experience that it’s easier than you think. Before you part ways each morning, try just giving her a hug and whispering, “Lord, bless my wife today and keep her safe.” Simple, but powerful…and very meaningful to her.
2. Look for teachable moments | Not every Spiritual moment needs to be a Bible study. There are TONS of ‘life lesson’ out there. We just need to find them. Hear your teen comment on a questionable post online? Maybe your 7 year-old walks into the living room and asks why bad things are on the news channel? These are those moments. Run with them.
3. Be authentic | You’re not perfect! Neither am I. And it’s ok (even healthy) to admit it often. When you snap at your wife because you had a bad day. When your kids notice you falling short of the Sunday morning message. Simply acknowledge it…ask them to forgive you, and move on.
4. Lead yourself well (in the open) | I don’t mean to be ‘showy’ here. Simply be visible when you exercising, reading your Bible, or praying. This is a powerful way to model right living indirectly to your family. Let them actually SEE how you are leading yourself.
5. Engage online | Let’s face it. Social media is here to stay. So when you come across a meaningful Bible verse on Instagram or a great quote on Twitter…share it with your wife and kids. Doing this communicates to them what you find to have value.
6. Model Jesus | Ok, so this one isn’t exactly EASY. But I couldn’t exclude it. Your wife and kids will learn more about the character of Jesus by observing you than they will by you teaching them a Bible lesson. Jesus taught much more by example than he did by preaching.
Don’t tackle all of these at once. Start with one or two and work from there. It really does get easier and more natural with time.
What would you add to this list? Leave a comment below. I’d love to hear from you.